Me Myself and My Dodiya Family.

All around I see hues and cries, amidst, I was unsure how and where to react !!

Long side I see a gentleman, sitting in disbelief with a big grief, I walked towards him, he didn't felt my presence.

I tapped on his shoulder, saw his blank face, absolutely blank face, no reaction.

I initiated a conversation with him

Dinesh - Mamaji
Mamaji - took his dry lips inside, deep breathe ( didn't responded anything, but left a unsaid message to me )
DD - Mamaji, speak some thing, I understand u lost your siblings, but say something ?
Mamaji - what shall I tell ? Whom should I speak to ? The one is who has to listen is no more, then what's the point I have to tell ?

He said something, which remained with me for a long time, and exactly it repeated after few years, and this time I don't want to write just in as a blog in Viens of every one in the family, well, let's see if I am able to do it.

Let's switch !!

What can we do for parents in this world to be called a good son or daughter ?

Can I take them in " Kavad " special carrier similar to the special carrier used by Sravan who took his parents to holy places like we heard in the stories, lol I don't think I can, not because of my physical ability, but there are other modes of transportation, I can take them in flight, am rich as I draw a 6 digit salary and I can afford it ( Feeling of arrogance ), but I still won't do it because my parents are not blind so let's rule out this and see if I can do some thing better than this.

Can I be like Lord Rama and make my parents proud to have a very good son like me, oops, actually I can, because am decent, I hear them, I don't get anger and I can be a one woman man ( Feeling of selfishness), but, I lie ( read the above two lines and you will know if I lie or don't ) so let's rule out this option, because am not perfect as Lord Rama.

Ok can I be like Lord Krishna, act naughty, romance with so many beautiful girls, steal butter and girls clothes, vow this looks easy and interesting ( Feeling of dirty ), but wait Can I be fair and honest like Lord Krishna and stand for the truth ? No ways, let's keep this option out then.

Ok, I understand that these type of things are good in stories and movies and that too in old generations. So does it mean that I can't do anything to make them happy ?

Nope, I made them happy and am lucky to make them ( I used to feel like this ).

But how did I made them ?

I remember taking them to GVK mall and seeing them having fun in " Fun Zone".

I remember buying them gifts on their birthdays.

I even remember seeing them happy when people told good things about me.

Vow, actually, I also took them to Overseas, Singapore. 

Man, I did a lot and spent a lot, to make them happy. Didnt I ?

If you say or think " Yes " then you are the most selfish guy in the world like me.

But why ?

If I look back, if I think I did this all, then am an idiot, because, actually they made me, they gave me education and values which enabled me to do this. My dad slogged in an government office, used to ride up and down 4 kms, to earn and made us literate.

So the credit goes to them.

But then what did I do, Didn't I do anything, in that case no son or daughter can do anything for their parents in this world, because the examples I gave of Sravan, Lord Rama and Lord Krishna are not possible. Then in that case what shall be done to be a good son or daughter.

Hmmm, now this is interesting, what shall we do ? 

Find find find ?

Google Google Google ?

Ask teachers, ask friends ask better halfs ask everyone.

But you won't find answer. Then how, is there no option ?

There is one option, if you think ask your parents ( do I need to tell you especially that you are dumb idiot ). It won't work, because parents 

only know to give but don't expect.

Then what shall I do ?

I searched for the answers in my parents eyes, unfortunately for a long time, I never found any thing, because as like other parents, they never demanded anything.

But one day, when my friend whose father was admitted in a famous hospital, called me and told a beautiful conversation between them in ICU ( Father was frustrated for being in ICU for 3 days, with all medical appliances over him, he was feeling caged in it).

Read further to understand what I heard from my friends point of view.

3rd Day of Hospital. Dad was in ICU. He had a cardiac attack. For being 3 days in ICU.

Addressing his son, father said, " see son, I don't feel this hospital is good one, they are just keeping me here with out any reason ( father was not been told that he had an attack, he was admitted for a general check up). Let's go back to home, we discuss and then understand which hospital and doctor should we go.

My friend, who was the son, laughed at his old fathers ignorance, and made him understand that this hospital was very good, and he should listen to him.next moment, he found tears in fathers eyes, my friend who was son here shocked to know the reason, inspite of getting best treatment, he felt his dad was angry. His father scolded him for not listening to him, moving him of ICU as he was not able to bear it. My friend told that he is concerned for safety and moving him out of ICU would be risky. Hearing this my friends father, cried saying that, my wife my sons are only worried about my safety, but not what I want. It can be only understood by my brothers whom I have lost, they will see what I need because they want to see me smiling, and no one can replace them, and I miss them today.

My friend was in tears who told me, and a that day I realised, what parents who are in their old age, wants that love and affection they got when they were young.

Let's switch back to what I wrote in the first para, about Mamaji not my own but my aunts brother, who was weeping when my aunt expired. He was silent that night not able to shed a tear as didn't find anyone else in his sisters sasural, and he told me, what shall I tell, where shall I cry, as the one for whom am crying is on death bed.

Guys - I found what my dad needs at this age, he needs affection of his brothers and sisters which I don't want to stop for my ego so that I don't see anyone going through the pain of telling something but the other person not being available.

I want his brothers and sisters to give him love support and affection which he deserves, not because he is my dad but because he is your brother and you are his younger brothers.

Let's ensure that siblings are never separated for just EGO.

This is me, my identity and what I would like to be identified with.

With Love

Dinesh (Incomplete with out my surname Dodiya).